If you answer yes to three or more of these questions you were most likely abused and should talk to a trained therapist about your feelings. 

If you have thoughts of killing or harming yourself seek help immediately from a trained mental health professional.

Is it difficult for you to trust others?

Do you feel threatened when people get too close to you (emotionally and physically)?

Do you always feel older than the people around you?

Do you have little or no memory of your childhood?

Do you have problems with sustaining a love relationship?

Do you find unavailable men more attractive than the available ones?

Do you have trouble establishing and maintaining boundaries, such as saying no to others?

Do you have have a number or different sexual partners at a time?

Are you obsessed with love relationships?

Do you feel discounted from your body?

Do you feel that you are secretive or wearing a mask all the time?

Do you feel dirty or ashamed?

Do you feel different from other people, as is there is something bad about you?

Do you feel like a victim?

Do you have persistent feelings of low self-esteem or self-hatred?

Do you have a hard time taking care of yourself (instance, getting enough rest, eating properly, grooming)?

Do you feel unable to defend or protect yourself?

Do you use work or doing good deeds for others as a way to feel good enough and to compensate for low self-esteem?

Are you prone to to depression or anxiety attacks?

Do you expect people to harm or abuse you?

Do you engage in risky sexual behavior (with strangers) to make yourself feel wanted and loved?

Do you believe that you are good only for sex?

When making love, do you feel such fear or anxiety in your body that you desire to be somewhere else?

Do you feel that you have to control everything about lovemaking to enjoy it?

(From No Secret No Lies How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual Abuse by Robin D. Stone)

 

 

 

 

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