Hearing Impaired Women Speak Out About Sexual Abuse in Jamaica

November 22nd, 2007

By Dawn Marie Roper  

Kingston, September 28, 2006 (Panos) Life for deaf women is far from peaceful. In fact, deaf women have been identified as being extremely vulnerable to sexual abuse and violence.For deaf women like 43 year old Florence Bailey, vulnerability is a daily part of her life.“Yesterday, I went out to walk. A man called me. He lives near me, so I went into his car. He was driving away with me so I asked him where he is going,” she said while explaining that he knew that she was deaf. “He said he wants to have sex with me. He wanted me to touch his penis while he drove but I told him no, because I am married. He said he heard I had no children and he would give me a baby.”Florence also spoke about her 34 year old deaf friend who she said, was abducted by a route taxi driver in November 2005. Florence said after everybody else got out of the taxi, her friend tried to get out. The driver held on to her bag, locked the door and drove away with her. He took her far away and raped her.“He didn’t want her to look into his face so he turned her around and had rough sex with her,” Florence said. She said her friend went to the doctor and reported it to the police and the man was arrested. But the doctor told her she caught something, but she could not understand what the doctor wrote on the paper he gave her.A similar story is told by thirty-two year old Christine Prince. The mother of three said that when she was about 12 or 13 years old, a bus driver and conductor tried to rape her. They refused to let her off the bus after everybody else had left and drove her near to some train tracks and attacked her. She said she escaped into some bushes and hid until night. She was taken home by a woman who found her wandering in the road. Her mother (who is not deaf) took her to the hospital.A study carried out by the Jamaica Council for Persons with Disabilities (JCPD) recently, revealed that hearing impaired women and girls are exposed to high levels of rape, battery, incest and carnal abuse. They are unable to adequately communicate the abuse that they have suffered, and so become vulnerable to contracting HIV/AIDS. As a result the JCPD recently announced plans for an HIV/AIDS Prevention Programme for Deaf Women.“Many deaf women are raped five, six times and sometimes they are gang-raped,” says Valerie Spence, Administrator of JCPD. She pointed out that deaf women are at the mercy of hearing men who take advantage of them because of their disability, their lack of education and lack of employment. She pointed also out that sexual abuse is also rampant within the deaf community itself.“Deaf culture facilitates serial, multiple and shared relationships. The deaf have relationships across age groups, so a deaf man will have sex with a young girl and age is not an issue. Some deaf adults have sexual relationships with younger persons and children.”This makes them more vulnerable to contracting sexually transmitted diseases. She said HIV among the deaf is a serious concern because they receive little information about it. While information about the disease is easily available to the hearing public, HIV prevention information does not reach the deaf community because it is packaged for the hearing and literate. Many deaf persons are disadvantaged because they received little or no education as children. Many parents of deaf children think it is a waste of money to educate them. The school system also shuts them out as it cannot accommodate the deaf as it does the blind. Many deaf people therefore cannot read printed information about HIV. Ms. Spence pointed out that even when the deaf are aware of HIV, they have misconceptions about it. This makes the problem worse.“So many do not hear about HIV,” Ms. Spence said. “They have not been speaking to people living with HIV and heard their stories. Many deaf persons still see HIV as a hearing person’s disease so they will tell you that only hearing person can get HIV.”While there is no data about HIV among deaf women, Ms. Spence thinks the numbers are high.“Deaf do not like to use condoms. The community is small so it’s easy for disease to spread. Because of the frequency with which they change partners, children born to deaf women are sometimes neglected as paternity is not determined,” she said. “So there may be children who are infected. Not many persons within the deaf community have been tested. They will tell you they don’t have it because they cannot catch it.”Ms. Spence pointed out that the deaf do not trust outsiders and they will not readily discuss their problems with hearing people. Deaf women who are sexually abused by a deaf man will not report the abuser because he is one of them.

The deaf women added that they do not report abuse because the police laugh at them when they turn up to report a sexual assault.“They ask us how we know it is rape,” Prince complained. She said the police and hospital workers do not understand sign language so it is hard to talk to them. Ms. Spence explained that the JCPD had made recommendations to policymakers and met with high ranking Police officials in the past to address the problem of police insensitivity to the deaf. These efforts have not resulted in any change in police behaviour or the public at large.The alternative, according to her, is to empower the deaf women by providing them with the information they need to survive and protect themselves. This is the long term goal of the HIV/AIDS Prevention Programme. The programme will involve a series of workshops and skills building sessions, to teach these women survival skills, self-defense strategies and economic skills to make them less vulnerable to sexual abuse and violence. The programme is funded by The Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS (UNAIDS).It started off last week (September 12) with about 35 deaf women and girls, mostly from Kingston and Portmore being trained. Most of them were students from the Lister Mair Gilby School for the Deaf and the Caribbean Christian Centre for the Deaf. The deaf women participated in a self-defence class led by Cherry Natural, Poet and Martial Arts Instructor. An HIV positive woman also shared her experience with them. The seminars will continue in May Pen, Mandeville, Montego Bay and Ocho Rios.

Parents Can Miss The Signs of Abuse

November 22nd, 2007
By Vivian Attwood

As a parent you assume you know your child and would instantly be aware if anything was troubling him or her.

When it comes to sexual abuse, though, you could miss the signals.

It is important not to blame yourself. This is not a reflection on your love for the child or your parenting ability.

Below are some symptoms to be on the alert for. Remember, though, that some of these behaviours might have another root cause.

Whatever the reason your child is exhibiting them, they indicate unhappiness and you must get to the bottom of the problem.

  • Your child shows sexual behaviour or knowledge that is age-inappropriate, and might want to touch others in sexual ways.
  • There might be redness or abrasions on your child’s genital area.
  • Younger children who have been sexually abused may become either withdrawn or aggressive, experience nightmares, wet their beds or act in an uncharacteristic way.
  • Older children might become aggressive, play truant, do poorly at school, speak disrespectfully to their parents or even run away from home.
  • Some will withdraw, become depressed, express suicidal thoughts or deliberately injure themselves.

    While these behaviours are common in children who have been sexually abused, they could indicate other problems. Either way, they must get specialised help.

    If your child has been sexually abused, he or she will need all your love and reassurance. No matter how traumatised you feel, do not indicate in any way that the child is to blame. It is never the child’s fault.

    You need to contact an organisation that specialises in child sexual abuse. Even if you are not sure of your suspicions, listen to your gut instincts.

  • Trinidad Newsday Editorial

    November 19th, 2007
    Abuse of boys

    Monday, November 19 2007

    A non-governmental organisation, the TT Anti-Violence Project, last week raised a disturbing aspect of the sexual abuse of children – older men who prey on underage boys. While child sexual abuse is generally an under-reported crime, the organisation pointed out that, because of the stigma attached to homosexuality, boys are even less likely to report being abused by men.

    It is a pertinent point. Information on child abuse in this country is notoriously difficult to come by. The Central Statistical Office’s last Report on Crime Statistics has three cases of child abuse and abandonment reported in 2003, but between zero and 25 cases for previous years. Additionally, the Rape Crisis Centre gets an average of 20 such cases every year, and twice that number of reports of incest. And over 100 children are referred every year to Probation Services for child abuse, typically one-fifth of those being for sexual abuse.

    The fact that the country does not have reliable figures points to the lack of commitment to dealing with this problem, despite the rhetoric that comes from officials in Government. Even activists contribute to the confusion surrounding this issue, by continually talking about a “cycle of abuse”. Although it is true that abusers are more likely to have themselves been abused as children, the fact is that 70 percent of abused persons do not become abusers in their turn. The false belief about an abuse cycle occurs because abused persons who do not become abusers never come to the attention of researchers. Only those who commit abusive acts do so, hence giving a skewed impression

    However, since data in general is so hard to get, tackling child sexual abuse is difficult, and the specific issue of adult men abusing boys is even harder to expose and stop. Unlike racism or sexism, prejudice against homosexuals is still considered acceptable in our society. A recent survey found that, while only two percent of people said they would not like to have someone of a different race as their neighbour, 66 percent objected to living next to a homosexual.

    Moreover, the average person is likely to believe that male homosexuals are more likely to be paedophiles, even though girls are far more likely to be the victims of heterosexual men. We have even seen cases where judges have freed men of murder because of a defence that the male victim made a pass, and another case where the judge made comments to a homosexual man who had been abused by police officers. And, of course, we have a Prime Minister who has shelved the Draft Gender Policy partly because it recommends changing the law which makes same-sex preferences illegal.

    This kind of attitude has to change, not merely in order to deal with homosexual child abuse, but in order to deal with sex crimes generally. A good first step would be to provide children with avenues, preferably right in their schools and communities, to report such acts.

    Courtesy of  Trinidad Newsday Newspaper.

    Trinidad and Tobago Men Seeking Solutions to Problem of Sexual Abuse of Men and Boys

    November 18th, 2007

    Well just back from Trinidad and Tobago and there I was able to join forces with TT Anti Violence Project and Friends For Life, local NGO’s.  Thanks to these folks we were able to hold a 2  hour discussion and group counseling session with male survivors and their friends. This act of courage must be commended. Many called but were unable to attend, hopefully this disccussion will happen again, early next year, stay tuned. Š